As human beings, we have a lot of emotions, some are stronger than others. And a lot of those feelings are love and hate. I know from experience, many people love/hate certain things about themselves. For example, certain people love the way their smile is or how nice their hair is. On the other hand, some people hate the way they smile or how messy their hair is. It's such a big contrast between everyone and I feel like we need to learn to love ourselves because if we don't love ourselves, then who will? I am still learning to love myself and still getting my head around the fact the I am different to everyone else but here are a few things you can do to learn to love yourself and in general, to have a better view of life:
- Stop comparing yourself to others. I know what it's like to compare yourself to others because I do it all the time. I could walking down the street and see a girl and think "wow, she is so pretty, why can't I look like her?" or I could be on Instagram and see so many beautiful girls and it makes me sad that I don't look like them. But everyone is different, no one looks alike and what looks beautiful to you could be the opposite for someone else. You are beautiful and no one is like you, you are special in your own way and don't you forget that.
- Be grateful for being healthy and alive. You might be thinking about all the wrong and bad things in your life but take a moment and think about all the good things. Be grateful that you are healthy, strong and alive because not a lot of people are given the opportunities that you have. Never take anything for granted because you are very lucky. I know I'm grateful because I have a happy life and I get so many opportunities to do something worthwhile with it. Once you think about all the good things in life and how lucky you are, then I promise you, you will be happier.
- Don't care what others think of you. I discovered this myself a couple of months ago and honestly, I am happier because I get to do the things I love and be the way I want and not caring what others might think is such a relief. I could be in college or in town and I will do whatever I feel like doing; I will dance around, I will laugh my head off, it doesn't matter what I do because I enjoy doing it, I like to be free. And people will look at me weirdly but I don't care, their opinions are invalid because it won't impact my life, it won't change the way I am. Their opinions don't matter because they don't know me and it won't stop me from doing what I want.
- Laugh and smile as much as you want. Naturally I am a very happy person, I will laugh at everything and anything. I don't know why but smiling and laughing just makes me feel so much better and I have at least one laughing fit a day. In my opinion, laughing and smiling will make your day so much better and it feels good. It makes you think of the happy times and all the good memories. Also it makes you appreciate the life that you have and how good it feels to be you.
- Surround yourself with positive people. This is very important, you need to be around good, positive people who will bring out the good side of you. They will help you and be there for you and they will bring a positive vibe that just makes everything feel better. I've been around people who are so negative and are always thinking of the bad things and honestly, it is draining and boring. It just ruins my vibe, don't get me wrong, I love to moan and be grumpy but when it's all the time, it just ruins my mood. I guess it's different for everyone but to me, being positive is the way forward. Being around good people makes life so much easier.
Thanks for reading, ItsNatarika x
