Dating; Fantasy vs Reality

As many people are in relationships these days, the expectations and “relationship goals” are becoming more and more unrealistic. Whenever I am going through social media, I always see someone posting about their perfect relationship and I constantly think to myself, it’s never going to happen. It may sound depressing but that is the harsh truth. Real life is not a fairy-tale and a Prince Charming isn’t going to save you on his white horse. I mean it may happen to someone, they will get there happy ending but there is no such thing as a perfect relationship. Relationships are hard work and stressful and people need to realise this before they get their hopes up. Nevertheless relationships can be rewarding and I completely understand that having someone there is comforting and assuring but people are setting up these ridiculous ‘relationship goals’ that is so silly that it is intoxicating the minds of society. For example recently I saw on Twitter, someone tweeted their relationship goal and it said something about being woken up at 3am to go on an adventure with their partner. To some people, they might find it romantic but to me, this is just stupid because firstly I would not like to be woken up at 3 am and if you do wake me up, I would not be happy. And secondly that “adventure” would probably be going for a drive to the closest drive-thru and eating junk food in the car. I mean that might sound perfect to some people but to me, it would be pointless. All these “relationship goals” are setting up boundaries that real life people cannot reach and this will mean you become disappointed. When you’re dropping little hints expecting your partner to surprise you with a present yet that’s not going to happen unless you tell them; they are not mind readers. Overall I am not saying that relationships are bad and that you won’t be happy however it just means that you would have to work hard for it as relationship are difficult but can be pleasing. Likewise I am not saying that you shouldn’t want a relationship and want it to be amazing but you shouldn't get your hopes up, there’s more to life than love, set yourself life goals that are realistic and work hard for them which will mean that you will get somewhere in life and succeed in whatever you want. But seriously stop making impossible goals and actually work on making the relationship work and last.
 

Thanks for reading, ItsNatarika x

 

Learn to love yourself

As human beings, we have a lot of emotions, some are stronger than others. And a lot of those feelings are love and hate. I know from experience, many people love/hate certain things about themselves. For example, certain people love the way their smile is or how nice their hair is. On the other hand, some people hate the way they smile or how messy their hair is. It's such a big contrast between everyone and I feel like we need to learn to love ourselves because if we don't love ourselves, then who will? I am still learning to love myself and still getting my head around the fact the I am different to everyone else but here are a few things you can do to learn to love yourself and in general, to have a better view of life:

1. Stop comparing yourself to others. I know what it's like to compare yourself to others because I do it all the time. I could walking down the street and see a girl and think "wow, she is so pretty, why can't I look like her?" or I could be on Instagram and see so many beautiful girls and it makes me sad that I don't look like them. But everyone is different, no one looks alike and what looks beautiful to you could be the opposite for someone else. You are beautiful and no one is like you, you are special in your own way and don't you forget that.
2. Be grateful for being healthy and alive. You might be thinking about all the wrong and bad things in your life but take a moment and think about all the good things. Be grateful that you are healthy, strong and alive because not a lot of people are given the opportunities that you have. Never take anything for granted because you are very lucky. I know I'm grateful because I have a happy life and I get so many opportunities to do something worthwhile with it. Once you think about all the good things in life and how lucky you are, then I promise you, you will be happier.
3. Don't care what others think of you. I discovered this myself a couple of months ago and honestly, I am happier because I get to do the things I love and be the way I want and not caring what others might think is such a relief. I could be in college or in town and I will do whatever I feel like doing; I will dance around, I will laugh my head off, it doesn't matter what I do because I enjoy doing it, I like to be free. And people will look at me weirdly but I don't care, their opinions are invalid because it won't impact my life, it won't change the way I am. Their opinions don't matter because they don't know me and it won't stop me from doing what I want.
4. Laugh and smile as much as you want. Naturally I am a very happy person, I will laugh at everything and anything. I don't know why but smiling and laughing just makes me feel so much better and I have at least one laughing fit a day. In my opinion, laughing and smiling will make your day so much better and it feels good. It makes you think of the happy times and all the good memories. Also it makes you appreciate the life that you have and how good it feels to be you.
5. Surround yourself with positive people. This is very important, you need to be around good, positive people who will bring out the good side of you. They will help you and be there for you and they will bring a positive vibe that just makes everything feel better. I've been around people who are so negative and are always thinking of the bad things and honestly, it is draining and boring. It just ruins my vibe, don't get me wrong, I love to moan and be grumpy but when it's all the time, it just ruins my mood. I guess it's different for everyone but to me, being positive is the way forward. Being around good people makes life so much easier.

I hope you guys learn to love yourselves and see all the good things in life. And lastly, you are a special human being and don't ever change the way you are. I hope you enjoyed this post and it wasn't too optimistic for you!

Thanks for reading, ItsNatarika x